My first Astrology teacher opened up my awareness to so much about planetary patterns and their relationship to our psyche -- for this I am forever grateful.
You know how when you're learning something new and you have a moment of epiphany? That instant when a piece of information clicks, resonating with you on such a deeply personal level that you feel goose bumps because "Ahhh, finally ... it all makes sense!"
I had such an epiphany when this teacher began to talk about the sign Aries. Although I have my Sun in Taurus, my Venus and Rising sign are both in Aries and my Sun is placed in the 1st House of Self in my chart. There is a decided Aries flavor to my horoscope and personality. So, of course, when she began to offer her insights about Aries, I paid attention.
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I'll never forget how my teacher described Aries. Without mincing words, she declared: "The next time you're around an Aries and get upset over their selfish ways, you need to realize something. This zodiac sign, more than any other, has the right to be selfish! That's because they're learning to be self-directed and independent. They're supposed to selfish."
Being selfish is part of the Aries lesson
Wow. I felt like I got a free pass to be a bad girl from my teacher that day. I never forgot those words. They somehow released me from a lifetime of guilt about my self-regarding tendencies.
All my life I've been teased about being self-centered. I admit I get quite annoyed when I have to veer from what I want to do -- from my goals.
I get annoyed when I'm asked or expected to put someone else above me and tend to their needs -- especially if it means I have to put my needs on the back burner. Ouch. That really hurts a heavy Aries person to do. Which is why Aries is not known for being the most compromising sign. No, that award goes to his opposite, Libra -- the master at putting someone else first. Often times to the detriment of their own identity.
And boy does it tend to rub me the wrong way whenever I witness a heavy Libra friend or relative do this. You know the people I'm talking about -- the ones who need to check with their partner before making any type of decision. This is the soul who will give up an incredible career opportunity or personal goal in order to salvage a relationship. Ick. My skin crawls. I could never do that. I am far too selfish.
But that's OK. I'm supposed to be selfish. I'm learning, after all, to develop an ego. They're learning to relate. So the next time you accuse me of being "All about Maria," reflect on that. And I'll be sure to bite my tongue when you tell me that you need to consult with your husband before you brush your teeth. Because your lessons are not mine. And I've no right to judge them.
I leave you with the immortal words of Marilyn Monroe, who had Venus in Aries at the top of her chart, ruling her career sector:
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."