One week he's moving me to were he is, calling, texting, I love you, miss you, thinking of you.
I respond accordingly and return the sentiments. FIve years now, how much slower can you get? On off like a light switch. Past 5 months almost (without exception) staying in contact daily, then he's off again! It's as though nothing we talked about has any meaning. How do you love someone and then act as though nothing has transpired over this course of time? Simply heartbreaking on my end..I have read and read until I can't read anymore about CANCER. I have been patient and loving, but I can't take much more indecision. I probably need to say goodbye, however in matters of the heart, not so easily done as it would so final. Lost

I had someone like that although they were Aquarius. He had a girlfriend that he had kids with. Only called and came into my life when he got bored/tired of her crazy games. He left with no warnings for months at a time and went back to her. Maybe your "other" has a differnet life too?
Mine came back again and again saying he really wanted to be with me. Did the same as yours....calling, together all the time, then poof! Gone!

Ok, I had a feeling…I understand better now. I was reading on another forum about how different sun signs deal with hurt. One post was memorable; essentially she (a Cancer) said that she would go into hiding for months, and once for years after being hurt really badly. During that time she worked on ridding herself of the hurt so that she could feel normal again. At one point she thought she was ready to come back out, but then she realized that she wasn’t and went back into her shell for a few more years. When she eventually resurfaced she refused to talk about and it was like that event never happened in her life.

This is a very sensitive sign, and when they experience things that affect their emotions that deeply it can be devastating for them. Your man has been trying to heal all his life; 3 failed marriages and even though he blames his military career for those failures, I suspect he knows differently. He could be blaming himself for choosing to marry 3 different women who couldn’t accept military life. The first time my guy told me about his 2nd divorce, the reason he gave me for its failure was because of the stress of his business. Years later he admitted that he should never have married her because he knew even then that she wasn’t the one.

I don’t really know how to advise you, because even though I was in a similar situation and actually witnessed the anger, hurt, disappointment, and depression, I was virtually helpless to do anything about it. As mine told me, it was his responsibility to fix, not mine and luckily for me, he did come back to me a healed man.

You said that you never made any demands on him, but does he actually know what your wants are?

Thank you so much for your input, this has been and continues to be a struggle for me. I feel that I understand him more then he realizes and yes he knows what my wants are. He told me if we ever get together I wouldn't have to work, that I could return to school and at my leisure get a degree and live a normal life. That was Wednesday, by Friday he was pulling away again.
I have continuously let him know how much he is loved, maybe to much, I have no idea. I want to contact him ask him what I've done wrong (knowing I haven't)..Probably best left alone, I can do no more to reassure him that what I feel with him is genuine. As far as the wives..I tend to agree with you. Wrong choices at a different time in life.

GemTwin52 I wish you the best, stick to your guns!! Sometimes as a cancer I swear I live in total fear about some aspects of my life, I don't get it, I am working through it and just moving forward. I don't know why we cancers do that at times but we do. Fear of getting hurt....so worried that you can't live for the moment and enjoy life...just doesn't make sense....