I'm a Virgo female and I met this Cancer guy last summer who I really clicked with. We saw each other multiple times a week and he really seemed like he was wanting to make things serious with me. Unfortunately, once fall started I was only able to come home on the wkends because I'm finishing up my degree out of the city. Around this time (fall '08), things started to come up with his ex-girlfriend (a Sagittarius) who he has children with, basically where she confronted me and accused me of trying to steal him, etc. Since then, our relationship has been all over the place. We saw each other infrequently, we talked now and then, but whenever we did he seemed like he was still ino me. I've asked him directly multiple times if he thinks we should just be friends and he usually avoids the questions, but never says no. He also claimed that his ex just likes to start trouble and maintains he's not with her. Even today he says he cares about me and wants to see me but never follows through on any of this. It's been pretty much a year now and I would like to know if I should move on. Even though I care about him and I know it takes a lot of time for Cancers to trust people and move forward, I don't want to waste my time. And honestly, I feel like he has feelings for both of us but he may be afraid to leave the familiar behind and try to have a new relationship with me. Any insight into this?

I know this was a lot of info (sorry), but if anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it. Thanks so much in advance.

Same thing happened to me (and mine was a Cancer guy too). Run like **** and go find yourself a real man.

Hey everyone, thanks for your input! I didn't know if tarot could answer any of this, so I figured I'd give it a try. Every now and then I'll have moments like today where I'm really bothered by the situation, but for the most part I handle it well. I'm just going to keep keepin' on and see what happens. There's only so much of this I can control anyway...

Oh and his Sag ex supposedly cheated on him. I thought that would've been an obvious no-go for him considering Cancer trust issues, but throw in a couple of kids and I guess it's not that simple lol.

Thanks again...if there are any other comments, feel free to add :)

Hi HangedWoman...

I understand what you're saying but let me just clarify some points. As far as I know (and again, I can only go based on what he's told me and those who knew him before I did), he definitely did not leave her for me. I would never get involved with an attached man, so when we met I was under the impression that he was single because that's what I was told. We have a mutual friend (who's actually my cousin) and that's how we met...he had dated one of her friends prior to dating me, so it's not like he abandoned his family to start something new with me. They'd been broken up for well over a year when we first met.

I definitely respect the fact that he has children, but I believe you can be a responsible father w/o having a relationship with the mother if that's the case. Obviously I think most people want to be in a relationship with the father/mother of their kids, but the divorce rate in the U.S. has shown us how that works out. Not to mention the number of single mothers and fathers. And while that's a difficult road, many people are successful at it. Her infidelity (and maybe some other factors) drove him away from her, not finding someone else. They'd been together for several years and then he caught her cheating on him. Despite this, as far as I know he's been a caring father and sees his children multiple times a week. In my opinion, staying with someone shouldn't be a "responsibility' as you put it. You make it work if it's good for you as an individual and for the other person as an individual, not on behalf of anyone else. Your relationship with your partner doesn't wholly constitute whether or not your a good parent (although some couples let this affect their children), but certainly your relationship with your children does.

As far as listening to his ex, I've already listened to her verbally abusive (lol..sounds silly, but true) rants against me, and I've taken very little from them. I know that she sees me as a threat to their relationship and that she doesn't want me to pursue him for obvious reasons. However, she's made up stories about me in the past, so I take any "useful" information she gives with a grain of salt, honestly.

Again I appreciate your insight but I don't understand where you're getting some of these ideas...are they just personal opinion? For instance, you say that while she was nurturing their child he did not "get his thing in bed with her", insinuating that he left her for other sexual relationships (which didn't happen). I see on your other posts that you don't do tarot or use cards/tools, so how are you coming to these conclusions, if you don't mind me asking?

If245706>>I think people with children should be EXTREMELY careful before introducing a new boyfriend/girlfriend/what have you into their families.
Sandran>>I agree...Which is why I WILL NOT go/meet a man with small children.I do not need the added drama and aggravation of raising another couple's children,>ow..If..the guy was widowed,It's different.I just will not hook up with a man when both parents are still alive.I am not a homewrecker.