I am 35 years old and in the middle of my 3rd divorce. the future ex wants to get back together but I have such huge trust issues it difficult for me to take that leaf of faith. He is an Aquarian. He seems to have seen the error of his ways with me but i am not sure if he is just giving me li service to draw me back in or if he is being real with me. i don't want to disappoint anyone and want to be in a relationship that is harmonious but how can i tell if he is the one?

To put a spin on things I have reunited with an old friend from school recently as well. he is a ton of fun and seems to be trust worthy but again i am not sure about him either. he is a Sagittarius.

Who am I more compatible with? I don't need a man in my life but I am the hopeless romantic that wants mr right and right now. Advise is welcome. Help me please! what should I do?

you are so correct!! the aquarian is bringing me down and the sag is so much fun. i just am affraid that i will fall for the sag and he will move on to better water's one day and I will be left once again to swim in my pool of emotions alone. with the aquarian i know he isn't going anywhere even though i have lost that loving feeling he is safe. still in turmoil but your advise helps. thanks again.

Hi there! Can I join this conversation? I felt urge to write here as I'm a Pisces and 35 years old too! :) TwistedFish, your story seems quite 'pretty' in comparisson to mine - well you have guys interested in you!
Meanwhile, I feel totally hopeless... been single for 2 years; before that divorce from a non-functioning marriage (lived like roommates almost for a year); fell in love with a guy who had a lived-in GF; I couldn't be a part of the affair for long, so I told him that he has to make a decision. He said to me a lot of things to me (incl. 'love you' then 'we are just friends' and so on and so on); whenever I told him 'good bye', he insisted on me keeping in touch and reconsidering things and then after a while he would tell me he can't be in relationship with me - he did this 3 or 4 times.... it was a nightmare....
After the 4th good bye from me he accepted that. after a couple of months I got a very nice birthday email/card - saying things and that he's been thinking of me all this day... I contacted him after a week and later I found out that he's selling their appartment with his GF, plans to buy a house, marry, have kids... Again I was devastated.
I think I'm still devastated.... can't forget him. I did a lot of things to forget him - therapy, rituals, travel, etc. Nothing works. When I broke off the communication with him, I used to tell myself 'I'll meet someone else' - but nothing here. I feel like being cursed. All this time I went to one lousy date (I didn't like the guy, he didn't ask me out again); well there was one guy who liked me, but I don't like him, I even find him repulsive .

I feel hopeless, lonely, depressed, I feel like a total failure as a woman. I don't know what to do. I don't meet any new guys, everyone's around me married/involved. I really don't know what to do.... I don't have any wish to live, because now it's just a misery... These 2 years - like nightmare, like I haven't been living at all...

Can anybody help me?

Thank you for reading my post - sorry it's very long ...

dotthory,

thank you for your advise. i agree that we get what we project. i do want to have fun. that is exactly what i am having with the sag. maybe i shouldn't read into the future with him too much but it is hard. i am a fish and daydream all the time. that is what keeps me going at times. lol

The best advise I can give you is love yourself. A confident woman is the most attractive woman in the room. It took me a long time and a lot of heartache to relize that I have to live in my own skin for the rest of my life. All I have to do is please myself and love myself. Everything else will happen as it is supposed to. Start with you first!! the cosmo's might be telling you this by not bringing a good man or any man into your life right now. If you aren't happy with you then there will be no way you will make a partner happy.

use your emotions (good and bad) to better understand you. take up a hobby, hang out with friends, join a group of some kind. Remember no one can love you if you don't love yourself. Once you love your self you WILL have to fight the men off with a stick. I promise you that. You have to honestly love yourself though before it will happen. Tell yourself every day that the earth is luck to have you on it and smile at yourself in the mirrow. I had to do it and it helped me. I was close to ending my life a few years back and I realized I am worth life and life is worth me.

You can do it!!! We fish are strong people!!