I totally agree with you, know from experience. I am in an relationship with a cancer man, which started rather fast. I wasn't looking for a relationship because I had just came out of an hurtfull 6 year relationship (gemini) the first of Oct 2008. Seen this cancer before when i was in that relationship with gemini, saw cancer again on the last day of Oct 2008, already single i agreed to have breakfast with cancer the following morning. I should have knew from that breakfast date not to see him again.

I could tell he had been hurt "a lot" and really wasn't trying to do the settleing down thing, me either, expecially since i am about to move back home, another state. In the middle of dec 2008 I met up with him and some friends and as soon as I got in the door the friends was calling me "Ms. Official" I laughed it off, not knowing what in the world they were talking about by calling me that, so what I thought was a wisper to cancer asking him what they were talking about was heard by someone else to, the prson stated to me that you don't know you are his woman! Of course i laughed it off I couldn't dare answer that because cancer nor I had an discussion about placeing labels on eachother. And of course my insides were bursting with happyness because it wasn't til that moment was when I knew how much I really like this man.

Well we are in March 2009, cancer and I are still together , how I don't know, lol, he's telling me that he loves me and he wants for us to make it last, all that mushy stuff . But my concern now is with him knowing that I will beleaving soon he has'nt mentioned what going to happen once I leave. This man is a true cancer, he wears his heart on his sleeve but is so hard to understand, I have also did a lot of reading up on us, him, me and just like yours it says we are a good match but heck I am confused about a lot of stuff with him, so it seems like we both need help with these cancers.

i have some experiences with that sign, and I really dont get them. Cancer, in my opinion, fall in love very easily, and this can scare other signs sometimes. Cancer loves all the drama of love, they really enjoy their sadness, love for him is always a mexican novel, and if their heart was one time broken, they dont forget, or best, they never forget! so when all this suffer ends, he wont trust in anybody, all that girls will do the same in his head.

I think you should approach him as a friend, a person he can trust to tell all this problems. once in love he will be very romantic, but try to not disappoint him.

I, a Virgo, dated a lovely Cancer man in college and the affair lasted near 8 years. We shared many interests and values. The relationship was intense and very passionate but imperfect. I know a few other Cancer men and they share similarities. In my experience Cancer men fall in love easily and deeply and yes, they love the drama of falling in love and the newness of it all. They dislike to be cornered in by anything, mentally or spiritually and will run if pushed beyond their changing boundaries. They can be touchy and moody and can take offense at the slightest comment or action that they perceive as a criticism although they can be quite outspoken themselves. They can swing from loving, warm, affectionate men to being cold and withdrawn in a matter of minutes and God help you if you should make a comment about their Mother's. It has been twenty plus years since that relationship and although we live on different coasts, we talk to each other every couple of months for hours at a time as if time has stood still. We talk with the same intensity and honesty that we shared many moons ago (pun intended). We appreciate each others honesty, directness, vulerability and more importantly, our love of freedom. We are intimately connected but we are both such freedom lovers that we cannot be together. My cousin, another Cancer is very much the same way, five years in Texas, 4 year in China and counting. He loves, but he loves his freedom more. If you can be sensitive, if you can respect this need and if you have a fervent life of your own, then a good relationship with a Cancer man is possible and certainly worth the effort.

Bueno, I was married to a Cancer. Cancer, I have read, is considered the teenager of the Zodiac. Couldn't agree more. They're also prone to addictions, so be careful. Like to hang-out with the friends. To be honest, doesn't sound like he wants anything serious. I would listen to what he says. Keep your options. Might want to set a definite time frame on this one. I mean, I wouldn't be trying to figure him out 2 months from now.

Thank you everyone for the advice. And Paula, LOL, no, thankfully he's not Patrick. That would be pretty awkward. Glad to know you managed to start a relationship with him, though!