If you feel like you're on the outside looking in, that will change halfway through the month. The astrological reason for being on the sidelines is the transit of passionate Mars in your secretive 12th House of Spirituality until October 15. While this doesn't eliminate all social activity, it does quiet things down, call for discretion and make privacy a priority.
You could be attracted to a person who is not available or discover that someone desires you who is not ready to go public with his or her feelings. Your verbal ruling planet, Mercury, joins serious Saturn on October 8, reinforcing the importance of confidentiality. If you're frustrated with communication then, a quiet conversation in an out-of-the-way place is recommended.
On October 15, Mars enters Virgo and your 1st House of Personality, giving you more drive, energy and initiative. Taking the lead in relationships makes sense, yet caution is still called for. That's because Mercury begins its three-week retrograde period in subtle Scorpio on October 21. This shift occurs in your 3rd House of Information, reminding you to be careful about what you say and how you interpret others' words.
Listening attentively will reveal layers of meaning you didn't get the first time around and it may take more than one conversation to get a critical point across. But this is also a period when you may hear from someone from your past, or at least reflect on an old attraction that you might want to resurrect.
Either way, it's important to give yourself permission to change your mind if your heart takes you in an unexpected or inconvenient direction.