Cancer Parenting Compatibility: Caring Guardian
See what kind of parents you and your partner will be based on your zodiac signs
By Tarot.com Staff
If you’re a parent with your Sun in Cancer, you’re quite the guardian! You’re a loving and protective individual, and those traits are amplified even more when it comes to your children. While your kids will always feel safe and loved, you can be known to smother them a little. You can’t be with them all the time, but your time together will always be meaningful.
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Cancer and Aries
Cancer and Aries parents make the classic nature-nurture combination. Aries is willing to let the child go through changes and cycles that permit them to experience the forces of nature. Cancer, on the other hand, believes that every breath the child takes must be nurtured and guided with painstaking care. This combination will work well in that both of you are natural self-starters, and are able to organize the profuse amounts of equipment and schedule-juggling it takes to raise a baby in the modern world. Your child will either learn how to be chronically early for appointments, or rebel against the your influence and be a real slacker. You two will consistently motivate your young. It would be hard for your child to ever feel as though s/he is totally alone -- you might turn off the baby monitor by the time college rolls around.
Cancer and Taurus
Cancer and Taurus parents make an easygoing pair. You will go out of your way to provide everything your child could possibly need -- at least at first. Problems could arise when Cancer’s "must" list for the perfect child gets long enough to cut into Taurus’ creature comfort budget. Cancer will begin to sacrifice non-essential items (big screen TVs, fancy furniture, a new car) if there’s not enough to give baby the latest and greatest of everything. Taurus is always more than happy to provide anything that can be procured with "disposable" funds, but when the choices are private dancing lessons or sports coaching for a 3-year-old versus a new leather couch or country club membership, Taurus will probably draw the line. This can be worked out by endless discussions that Cancer is quite unlikely to win. Better for Cancer to give the Bull what it wants, and stash away a separate fund for indulging beloved baby.
Cancer and Gemini
Gemini and Cancer parents can offer a lot to children. Gemini will actively engage the children in mental, verbal, and social stimulation, while Cancer will be concerned with making the children feel loved and cared for in more physical, primal ways. This can be an almost-ideal arrangement; but there are some areas where you two are bound to disagree. Cancer’s devotion to the family can be somewhat of an enigma to hyper-social Gemini. Things like going out as a couple and leaving children with a babysitter can be hard for the Cancer parent. Meanwhile, Gemini’s desire to engage in "grown-up" activities is hard to deny, so there will have to be many compromises made here. Your children will probably see you as two separate entities. The Gemini parent will help them when they need to think an issue through, while Cancer will help them learn about protecting themselves and others who may be placed in their care.
Cancer and Cancer
Children with two Cancer parents might feel like they’re under constant surveillance, but what they’re really getting is unparalleled devotion and love. While they’re young, your children might even enjoy being watched over and cared for with total devotion. But once they get to the point where they want to have a choice about their activities, the problems can start! Each of you Cancer parents will have to come to terms with the concept of raising confident and independent children. You’ll also have to avoid getting into competitive nurturing contests with one another as your offspring make their way through life. There will always be cooking, coddling, baking, and singing in your household; the problem will be knowing when it’s time to cut the apron strings. You will need the help of a friend or relative who can offer helpful suggestions and calm down your frayed nerves.
Cancer and Leo
If there’s a perfect pair of parents, this could be it. Regardless of the actual gender of each parent, the way that your two energies interact will give your children everything they need. Cancer is the penultimate example of mother-energy. Cancer nurtures, cares for, and makes sure that the family is properly fed and dressed. Leo, meanwhile, takes on the role of father with a natural instinct of how to bring the best out of children. While Cancer cuddles and coos, Leo encourages the child to crawl, walk, and swim. When they get older, your children will probably have a lot of nice things to say about the way they were raised. Cancer and Leo can usually find ways to respect one another and share the parental workload without getting competitive about it. You work together so well because you recognize each other’s strengths and compensate for each other’s weaknesses.
Cancer and Virgo
You Cancer-Virgo parents will be very devoted to your children, so the basics of childcare will never be in question. The Cancer parent will make sure the children get unconditional love and nurturing, while Virgo will provide structure and tend to health and hygiene matters. Although you two aren’t likely to get stuck in a competition as parents, your children might try to pit you against each other by making you jealous. Cancer is sensitive, but usually wears all those hurt feelings out on the sleeve. Virgo, on the other hand, isn’t as likely to show insult or injury as directly. Instead, resentment can leak out in the course of day-to-day affairs. Children should watch their list of chores -- it’s sure to grow when Virgo has been crossed. Cancer can be a good disciplinarian, too, but usually only after admitting that the precious child in question has done something wrong.
Cancer and Libra
As parents your biggest asset is the similar way you two conquer the world around you. Cancer and Libra are both self-starters -- when anyone wonders what might be coming next, you get something going. The problem, though, is that you don’t often finish what you start! Needless to say, this can impact the way you parent your children. You might have to write down things like feeding schedules or medication times so they don’t get lost in the shuffle. And you might need to find ways of teaching your children to follow through on things, even if you can’t do so by example. Cancer and Libra parents can also have diverse views when it comes to aesthetics. Cancer’s priority is on comfort, while Libra’s is on beauty. You can clash when you begin choosing clothing for children or decorating their room. By seeing which is more important, ease or appearance, you can determine the correct choice for any given situation.
Cancer and Scorpio
Although Cancer and Scorpio make fast friends, you will find there are many compromises you’ll have to reach when you work together as co-parents. Cancer will constantly put the comfort of children above everything else in the household, while Scorpio will want to make life just hard enough on them so they develop a reasonable work ethic. Although Scorpio will by far make a better disciplinarian, Cancer will often try to plead the children’s case for leniency. Cancer can create structure and set boundaries, too, but it will most often be gently and quietly. Scorpio will be unafraid to show anger, and will deliberately make it so no one knows when the temper flare-ups might strike. You two will have to find ways of dealing with your children that allow you both to express your natural tendencies without seeming as though you’re coming from two entirely different worlds.
Cancer and Sagittarius
Your children are likely to lead exciting lives while feeling cared for and nurtured at the same time. Cancer will never give up on creating a safe and protective environment for offspring, and will tend toward over-protectiveness. Fortunately, Sagittarius will be charming and convincing enough so that Cancer will allow the children to experience new adventures in life. While Cancer will focus on learning traditions and subjects like English and history, Sagittarius will encourage children to be independent explorers, and to travel as much as they can -- if only for the purpose of learning something new. Discipline will come fairly easy to you two. Sagittarius will be able to identify when the children need extra restrictions and guidance, and Cancer will agree to administer punishments fairly when they’re needed. You two can easily resolve your differences in disposition through talking -- Cancer calms Sagittarius, and Sagittarius cheers Cancer out of those famously funky moods.
Cancer and Capricorn
Cancer-Capricorn is a classic case of the perfect set of parents, no matter which gender is born under which sign. Cancer personifies mother-type love, shown through a soft, nurturing attitude. Capricorn is the strict father type. Lessons will be taught and children will learn, if it’s the last thing this tireless parent ever does! Both of you are strict as parents; Cancer because of deference to tradition, and Capricorn because of reverence for respect. Both of you know what it takes to survive, and you easily allow one another to assume the roles that serve the family best. Cancer is the nester and Capricorn is the hunter-gatherer. Together you can build a solid foundation that provides for most of your children’s material and emotional needs. Your family will always be connected in one way or another, perhaps through a common business or career that gets passed down through the generations.
Cancer and Aquarius
Cancer and Aquarius have a hard time seeing eye-to-eye when it comes to parenting. To Cancer, being a parent is an almost primal need, while to Aquarius it’s a duty that’s performed as part of being a productive member of society. Aquarius might often wonder why Cancer frets about the children, while you’re supposed to be out enjoying yourselves as a couple; and Cancer will be shocked when Aquarius suggests that it’s actually all right to do things without your children around. Cancer will probably default to the position of being the primary caretaker in this family, but Aquarius will also want to have a firm hand in the children’s upbringing. While Cancer does the day-to-day care (including discipline), Aquarius will be the one to encourage the children to each develop a unique style and find ways to make individual marks on the planet, as they make it a better place.
Cancer and Pisces
As parents you shower your children with love and affection, but you may need some help when it comes to getting organized. Cancer and Pisces amplify each other’s watery nature, making it rather hard for either of you to keep both feet on the ground. Your children might sense this, and then act out so that someone can wake up and set the boundaries. Cancer is the one more likely to do this; but Pisces will certainly help once everyone has decided what will be done. Although you won’t disagree often, your fights could often end in tears and long periods of silence. Efforts must be made to keep your children out of your mini-battles. Cancer will do a great job of tending to the physical and emotional caretaking; Pisces will get right down into the children’s world to help them discover just how far their imagination can go.