Stuck in Heartache or Romantic Regret? Reclaim Your Power with a Rise Above It Reading
When you’re not sure how to move on, this reading points the way forward
There’s a moment (a real one, not just a metaphor) when you finally see what’s going on. The pattern becomes so obvious, and the price you’ve been paying to keep a connection alive is just draining you dry. It’s the moment where you stop asking yourself “Why can’t I let this go?” and instead start asking “What do I want?”
If you’ve been circling the same emotional cul-de-sac -- stuck in a confusing connection, waiting for a text that never arrives, or endlessly analyzing someone else’s mixed signals -- this might be your breakthrough moment. The clouds are lifting! The signs are everywhere! And if you’re brave enough to really look, you’ll see them all pointing toward the same truth:
It’s time to make your move.
But here’s the thing: … what does that even mean? Are you supposed to cut them off? Reach back out? Stay open but set a boundary? There’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to relationships, especially the emotionally complicated kind. But there is a way to get clear on what’s really going on (and why it’s been so hard to figure out).
This is where Tarot and Astrology can offer more than vague inspiration. They act like a flashlight in the fog, and in particular, the Rise Above It Tarot Reading was designed for exactly this kind of emotional knot that refuses to untangle no matter how hard you pull.
Let’s take a closer look at why these “stuck” moments happen -- and how the stars and cards can help you finally rise above them.
You’re Not Crazy -- You’re in a Loop
Let’s start with a little astrological honesty: when certain planets do their thing, clarity is not the cosmic theme of the day. (Hello, Venus Retrograde? Is that you?) And yet, those are often the times we most desperately want answers. You’re waiting on someone to define the relationship, or you’re trying to figure out if the way they ended things was a red flag or just bad timing. You want to believe it’s love … but your intuition is whispering something else.
Love confusion isn’t always about the other person. Sometimes, it’s about your fixation.
Fixation happens when your mind keeps rehearsing the same questions -- "Do they care?" "Will they change?" "What’s wrong with me?" -- because it’s trying to soothe an emotional wound that hasn’t yet healed. But instead of genuinely getting better, you loop. You scroll through old texts. You consult your birth chart like it’s a treasure map. You pull the same three Tarot cards over and over, hoping they’ll tell you something new. (Sadly, they won’t. They’re trying to tell you the same thing until you finally hear it.)
That’s why the Rise Above It Tarot Reading doesn’t just try to predict what someone else will do. It helps you understand why you’re caught in the loop in the first place -- and how to get out of it with your self-respect intact.
Meet Your Inner Fixation-Breaker: The Rise Above It Tarot Reading
Let’s say you’re still torn. You’re not sure if you’re being overly sensitive or if the relationship is genuinely unhealthy. You want to give it one last look before deciding whether to move on. This is the perfect moment for the Rise Above It spread.
Each position in this reading is like a mirror angled to show a different piece of the picture, including the ones you’ve been avoiding.
The card in the Reconciliation spot asks, “What unresolved energy exists between you and this person? What emotional debris might still be influencing the connection, even if no one's talking about it?”
The second card in the reading, Your Desires, helps you unpack your projections -- how you want to see this person vs. how they actually show up.
The Forbidden dives into your own self-sabotage. Are you ignoring your needs to keep the peace? Are you denying your own intuition because trusting it is too painful?
Your next card, The Danger, is a wake-up call. It reveals the real risk of staying stuck -- and the gift that’s hidden inside the challenge.
How to Proceed gives you a next step. Not a vague “trust the process,” but something identifiable, like a mindset, a boundary, or a change of course that’s actually within your power.
Finally, Your Satisfaction shows where this path is likely to lead -- emotionally, energetically, even spiritually -- once you take action.
This reading isn’t about passing judgment on you or the other person. It’s about finding a version of clarity that feels calm, grounded, and empowering, giving you permission to do what’s right for you (even if it’s not what your past self would have chosen).
Astrology’s Take: Is It You, Is It Them … or Is It the Transit?
While Tarot can zoom in on a specific relationship, Astrology can help you zoom out.
Let’s say Pluto is making a strong aspect to your natal Venus or Moon. That’s the kind of transit that dredges up emotional intensity, even if everything’s relatively calm in your actual life. Pluto doesn’t care if you’re being rational -- it wants you to evolve! So it sends you the perfectly complicated dynamic to press on your softest spots. (Fun!)
Or maybe Uranus is crossing your Descendant (translation: the cusp between your 6th and 7th Houses, directly opposite your Rising). If everything feels unstable and unpredictable, it’s not just you -- it’s the sky. Uranus brings shocks, revelations, and the kind of wild-card connections that seem to crack open your whole worldview. These relationships often start with a bang and end with a lightbulb. They’re electric … but not always long-lasting.
And then there’s Neptune. If Neptune is conjunct your natal Mars or square your natal Mercury, you might find yourself saying things you don’t mean or ignoring red flags because you really (really really really!) want the fantasy to work. Neptune dissolves boundaries, which is beautiful for poetry and playlists but not so good for spotting the difference between a walking green flag and a walking contradiction.
When your natal chart and the current transits make love feel murky, Tarot can act like your personal translator. It doesn’t override the Astrology -- it grounds it. Think of it this way: Astrology explains the weather, but Tarot shows you what to wear.
Psst: has all this Astro talk got you confused? Check out our Astrology glossary or get your own free birth chart.
What You Won’t See Coming -- And Why That’s Good News
Let’s return to the original question: who is this person you need to break free from?
Maybe it’s someone obvious -- the ex who keeps circling back; the friend with benefits who knows how to say the right thing at the exact wrong time; the person you want to love you, even if they’re not capable of it.
But sometimes, the person you need to break free from ... is a past version of yourself. The version who believed you had to earn love. The one who thought you had to be “chill” about unmet needs. The one who confused chemistry with compatibility. The one who mistook silence for strength and self-sacrifice for loyalty.
This is where the Rise Above It reading surprises people. It doesn’t always villainize the other person. It shows you the role you’ve been playing -- and asks if you still want to play it.
The revelation you won’t see coming? It might have something to do with your own readiness.
You’ve grown your capacity to walk away without resentment. You’ve nurtured your ability to say no without guilt. You’re coming to realize that love doesn’t have to feel like a test you’re always failing.
And that? That’s your breakthrough.
Rise Above, Don’t Burn It Down
You don’t have to ghost someone or declare emotional bankruptcy to reclaim your power. Making your move doesn’t always mean ending the relationship -- sometimes it means ending the version of the relationship that isn’t working.
The Rise Above It Tarot Reading isn’t here to shame you for staying, nor to pressure you to leave. It’s here to hold up a mirror and say, “This is what you’ve been carrying. This is what it’s costing you. This is where you could go next, if you choose your clarity over your fear.”
If you’re ready to understand your fixation, reclaim your power, and step into a new version of love -- one that actually includes you -- the Rise Above It Tarot Reading is your next best move.
Because the future you’re dreaming about? It’s already waiting on the other side of this decision.
