While it's perfectly reasonable for the shine of a new relationship to become polished with satisfaction over time, there are telltale signs that your relationship is at risk that you won't want to ignore. By examining the weak spots in your relationship, you may be able to act in time, before anger, apathy and resentment tarnish your love.
Sign 1: Alone in your thoughts
While it's perfectly normal, and healthy, for each individual in a relationship to have unique interests, there comes a time when it can become a sign of deeper issues. Ask yourself if you feel alone in your relationship, even when your partner is sitting right next to you. Do you share quiet moments together or are you each left to your own devices (literally and figuratively) while occupying space on the same couch?
Take the time to examine if you feel comfortable and secure or if you're feeling alienated. Check in with your partner and share your concerns. Do you both feel alienated and what can you do to bring affection and connection back into the relationship?
Sign 2: Anger, anger, everywhere
Have you reached the point where anger simmers right below the surface and bubbles up at the slightest provocation? Each couple has its hot spots that tend to ignite the flame of anger, but you should become cautious when every issue becomes a reason to argue. If you feel as if you and your partner are fighting more than not, take a step back and examine what is causing the arguments. Are you picking fights to cause a reaction or are you addressing critical issues in a respectful way that encourages resolution?
Communication is always key, but if you're doing more yelling than not, there is a good chance that no one is listening. Try taking a timeout to cool off. After both of you have tamed your anger, come back to the table for a discussion. Are you even still angry or do you need to address deeper issues?
Sign 3: Winning at all costs
Has your relationship evolved to be a competition that you can't afford to lose? Try to remember that you two are a partnership and should tackle the problems of home, hearth and the world together. If you engage in constant competition with your partner and keep score over every last little thing, you will be too busy trying not to lose that you won't have any energy left to devote to your partnership.
Take a step back from the competition and cheer your partner on from the sidelines. Don't be afraid to ask the same of them. Each of you should take turns being the star player and the cheerleader.
Sign 4: Airing dirty laundry
Each relationship should have a circle of intimacy, and you need to respect those boundaries. Don't be afraid to vent to a trusted friend, but be cautious and don't fall into the trap of bad-mouthing your partner to anyone who will listen. One thing to remember is that while you are venting, you are only telling one side of the story. You don't want to create a situation where your friend begins to think poorly of your partner, even after you've forgiven and moved forward.
If you find yourself over sharing your frustrations and relationship difficulties, put yourself in your lover's shoes. How would you feel if your partner broadcast your dirty laundry?
Sign 5: Breaking down, not building up
A little teasing can go a long way to building intimacy, but you always need to be laughing together. If other areas of your relationship are in disrepair, it's easy to take teasing personally and have it cross the line from loving banter to insulting mockery -- especially when it happens outside the home.
These five telltale signs can signal that your relationship is at risk for becoming unhealthy and toxic. If these seem all-too-familiar then now is the time to ask yourself if it can still be saved or if it's time to say good-bye. However, you don't have to make this decision on your own!
A professional psychic that specializes in love and relationships may help guide you to the right choice. Putting their unique gifts to work for you may help you see all aspects of your relationship, even the hidden energies that are creating tension or an empathic psychic may help you tune into the genuine emotions and motives of your partner. These valuable psychic insights can help you make a wise decision when your heart is on the line.