Missing An Element

What to do when your elements are out of balance

an imbalance of elemental energy

The usual morning routine in my house goes something like this:

I wake up and proceed into my daughter's room where she lays comatose. I wake her up. I ramble into the kitchen to get a pot of coffee on and make her lunch. I go back into her room again and wake her up for the second time. I move into the bathroom, wash my face, and brush my teeth but still don't hear any sounds coming from Annamaria's room. Finally, I storm into her room and scream "Wake up -- you're going to be late for school!" At last, she bolts upright.

My daughter is many things. She's smart, sassy, witty, kind, honest and genuine. She's compassionate and playful. She's free spirited. But if there's one thing she is not ... it's grounded. She tends to rely on me to create structure in her environment and doesn't seem to have any attachment to the physical trappings of our world. It all makes sense when you consider one important feature of her horoscope. When it comes to balancing her elements, Annamaria has no Earth. Are you missing an element in your chart like my daughter? Find out now with your personalized Essential Birth Report.

Not a drop of Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn can be found in her birth chart, which means in her psyche there's a pivotal piece missing. She doesn't contain the characteristics of Earth. She is responsible -- I'll give her that much. But I only think it's because her Leo Sun resides in the 10th House of Status (a natural Earth House) improving her marked lack of Earth energy slightly. But she isn't exactly practical -- especially when it comes to the material world.

More money, more problems

One of the things I love the most about my daughter -- envy actually -- is her complete lack of attachment to money. She reveals disdain for those who are money driven. She doesn't worry about money the way earthy people do. She is far more concerned with communicating, sharing ideas and relating (Gemini Moon-Saturn trine Libra Ascendant trine Uranus-Neptune in Aquarius). She's intensely focused on living out loud and being authentic (Leo Sun and Mercury, Mars-Pluto in Sagittarius). And she cares deeply; nurturing those she loves unconditionally (Venus-Jupiter in Cancer). But money? Eh, que sara sara is her motto.

A far cry from her Earth dominated parents (Taurus and Virgo Sun signs) and her Earth heavy brother (Venus in Virgo trine Jupiter in Taurus and Saturn in Taurus). We're the ones more concerned with working hard and earning our keep. We focus on building security and a nest egg. We save money for a rainy day. Annamaria doesn't believe in rainy days apparently. Or maybe she just doesn't see the point of paying for them. She will tell us over and over that "Money isn't everything" and that "Money doesn't buy happiness." She's right of course ... but my Taurus Sun has makes the point that money DOES buy the One Direction Concert Tickets that will guarantee her euphoria.

Opposites attract

Funny thing is, when you lack an element in your chart you will notice that you are DRAWN to people who have significant placements of that element in their chart. Why? Well if you don't have something in your own chart then you are out of balance -- even if you don't want to admit it. You will seek it from someone else to feel more evenly keeled. You may not crave it consciously (it's like a blind spot) but just like we all need the five food groups to achieve total physical wellness, we also need all four elements to experience psychological wellness.

Missing something?

Do you lack the Water element in your chart? Then you may not be as in touch with your ability to freely express your emotions and intuition. It's not that you lack empathy, psychic ability or feeling ... it's just more uncomfortable for you to express because you'd rather focus on feeling through action (Fire), logic (Air) or practically expressing emotion (Earth). You invite Water people into your life to help you learn how to emote from a more graceful plane.

Do you lack Fire in your chart? Then perhaps you lack a certain amount of zest and require others to light a fire under your butt to get you going. You take action, but not as enthusiastically and courageously as if you had Fire. You invite Fire people into your life to help you learn how to take flight.

Do you lack Air in your chart? Well that doesn't mean you're a dummy. Quite the contrary actually. You may think best on your feet (Fire), when you connect to your gut instincts (Water), or perhaps by finding a practical use for your intelligence (Earth). You invite air people into your life to help you learn how to work through your potential intellectual insecurity and to help you learn that none of us is a "know it all."

Constantly learning

If you lack an element in your birth chart then the truth is, there is an imbalance. This suggests a place in your life where you seek resolution and restoration. You need to learn about this element and how to work with it. You seek perspective. This journey may lead you to overcompensate when it comes to that elements potential in an effort to make up for its lack. Or, there may be a complete rejection of that element altogether in your own psyche. Neither approach is helpful. Remember, if you lack an element the healthiest way to integrate it is to learn from the people around you who contain that element.

So Annamaria ... does Mommy really need to tell you for the fifth time this morning? Wake up or you're going to be late for school!

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