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54: Careful Affection

Affection is an important part of intimate relationships, but it must be handled carefully in order to both be satisfying and support the self-respect of both parties. For instance, a married person’s lover would have the conflicted feelings of affection that are coupled with insecurity. Relationships that are based on personal attraction -- especially those that are unconventional -- require special attention and a cautious measure of tactful reserve.

To overcome challenges, and for a relationship to achieve longevity, you need to remain mindful of extreme feelings of attraction and the transitory nature of most relationships. It is an irony of life -- that the happiest people are the ones who already have what they want and who want what they already have.

It is never easier to make disastrous mistakes than when you venture outside the bounds of propriety. If you assert yourself too much or try to make yourself indispensable, you will invite misfortune. If you are in doubt as to whether you should follow your heart or your head, allow for some time to pass, and perhaps the answer will become clear. Boldly asserting yourself right now could bring misfortune, so do not attempt to be overly creative or to attract much favorable attention. At the same time, allowing yourself to drift aimlessly can be a mistake. Find balance in a middle way. The traditional analogy for this hexagram was the transition of a marrying maiden from girlhood to committed adult.

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